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Overwhelmed by mess
I dislike mess. This fact is impressed onto me daily by a son who seems rather fond of it. Or, at least, a son rather fond of making it...
Here you'll find my reflections on life and living. I won't tell you what you should do or think. I'll just tell you what I'm learning and what I'm struggling with. Because learning is power and the unspoken is usually what tangles us up.
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- Oct 7
- 5 min
Being Me. Being White.
I am white. But what exactly does this mean? I used to think it meant, well, being normal. I say think. It wasn’t that I actually thought...
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- Sep 30
- 6 min
Learning to be me
The other day, I met up with a friend I hadn’t seen since our school days together. I found myself wondering what they remembered of me:...
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- Sep 23
- 4 min
Anxiety
Over the last few days, anxiety has increasingly become an unwelcome presence. Not that it’s usually absent. It’s often there, chattering...
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- Sep 16
- 3 min
Loneliness
As I sat in my favoured coffee shop, I noticed an elderly man, one whom I could imagine being called doddering, sitting opposite me. He...
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- Sep 9
- 2 min
Grief & Joy
The other evening, we received news that someone close had only a few days to live. It wasn’t unexpected. In some respects, it was a...
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- Jul 15
- 6 min
Men & The Current Crisis
Men are both powerful and relational. They have a drive towards becoming and belonging. Their vast capacities to feel, think and do all...
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- Jul 8
- 8 min
Men & Work
The working man is a central, vital figure in the male psyche. It conjures images of competency, success and value, as well loneliness,...
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- Jun 30
- 4 min
Toughen up, son
Can you take it? Don’t be soft! Toughen up, son. These are the mantras we instil in our boys. Our means of education are criticism,...
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- Jun 16
- 4 min
Meaning in the Mess
We spend out lives chasing meaning beyond the mess of our lives, but meaning all along is found in that very mess.
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- Apr 24
- 6 min
Faith and Fear Conclusion: The Yet Unsaid
I come to the end of this series writing about faith and fear. It’s really been a journey for me in articulating constructively where I...
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- Apr 24
- 7 min
Faith & Fear Part V: Chaos
Faith draws us to venture out into the untameable Ocean, trust that we will survive, and participate in its healing flow. The call of the...
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- Apr 24
- 9 min
Faith & Fear Part III: Mystery
Faith sees and holds the paradoxes and mystery of reality, seeing through the facades of certainty that cut us off from hope and love....
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- Apr 1
- 3 min
A Man's World
We are all worlds Some of us, like the Earth we live on, have the hidden life of a core within, moving the landscape with currents of...
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- Mar 18
- 2 min
Men & Sex II: ways forward
In the first blog (Men & Sex 1: what men are taught), I discussed why men can find themselves hurt, frustrated and bewildered when it...
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- Mar 11
- 4 min
Men & Sex I: what men are taught
Men can find themselves hurt, frustrated and bewildered when it comes to sex. It can be the source of many struggles in their relational...
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- Feb 24
- 8 min
What is Counselling Part 2: A Relational Therapy?
In my previous blog (What is Counselling? ), I argued that: Counselling is much more than a talking therapy, but a relational therapy....
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- Feb 17
- 7 min
Faith and Fear Part IV: Our Inner Reality
Living outside of ourselves Many of us, to some degree, have lived our lives outside of ourselves. This may be a natural part of...
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- Feb 10
- 3 min
What is Counselling?
What is Counselling? Type in ‘What is counselling?’ to a search engine and you will find that it is called a ‘talking therapy’. The...
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